Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m not feeling it?” Most likely we have felt like that even though we have not said those words to someone. I think sometimes we are tired, not feeling well or feeling lazy. Sometimes we have a bad attitude because of something that has happened to us. What do we mean when we say it? Do we mean, I’m not up to doing that today, or I don’t want to invest my time or my emotions on you? What does the other person hear? Do they hear something like, I’m not worth ten minutes of your time, or I’m not worthy of your love today? Ouch! We probably thought if we said, I’m not feeling it, it wasn’t a big deal, right? But to the person receiving those words, it was. Most likely that person had invested some time and resources in us and is pretty surprised by the answer they received for their request for help.
I know there have been many times I did not feel like cleaning the house, cooking meals, sitting out in the cold at a sporting event or cleaning up after sick children, yuck! In those times, my obligation and my love for my family superseded my feelings.
As humans, we cannot live by our feelings especially negative ones; our feelings are fleeting like the wind. Our feelings are comprised of how we feel at the moment, our emotional, physical, and spiritual state. When we speak or act on those feelings, we do so without brain involvement and its ability to rationalize the situation. That is when we have the ability to make some very big mistakes.
I think the easiest thing in the world to do is to turn off our brains and live in the moment by how we feel. I like this verse from the Bible: Isaiah 59:10 Like the blind we grope along the wall, feeling our way like people without eyes. At midday we stumble as if it were twilight; among the strong, we are like the dead.
When we live by our negative feelings we do stumble and fall. We embarrass ourselves. We do and say stupid things. When we disengage our brain then we walk blindly. When we live without God’s spirit we do not have a connection to a positive source of beneficial emotions and we are like the dead.
When we live with God in our lives, we feel empathy and pride in others that gives us a deep desire to express love and comfort when needed. These are positive feelings. Sometime even though we are close to God negative feelings will bother us. It is spiritual warfare as stated in Ephesians 6:10-12. In those times, we have to use our brain and pray as we honor our commitments. I know this is the secret to being happily married for 29 years. We can have those times in other relationships, in our jobs or social activities as well. Sometimes they drain us and we have to stop and evaluate, think, not feel our way through our decisions.
Romans 8:12 Therefore, brothers and sisters, we have an obligation—but it is not to the flesh, to live according to it.
The flesh (our body) feels things and we can allow those feelings to control our actions. As the verse states, we have an obligation. We have this obligation to God, our friends and family and even to ourselves to live an honorable life that creates an atmosphere of peace and love. When we upset that balance by acting on our negative feelings, we then change our way of life.
My mind and my feelings agree, I am very thankful that you are reading my blogs and leaving me comments. I’m feeling it friends! Thanks!
Author of the book, S.O.A.P. How To Clean Up Your Stinking Thinking One Day At A Time www.sallystierhoff.com
Who is Sally? I have been very happily married for 31 years and we have four grown children and 7 grandchildren.