I have noticed a lot of examples of pride these days. What actually is the definition of pride? A high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit or superiority. The state or feeling of being proud. A becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one’s position or character. Dictionary.com
I believe when we do something well we can feel good about it, as in taking pride in our work. I believe it’s also alright to be proud of our children, spouse or others. When do we cross the line with pride and make it something annoying or hurtful to others or displeasing to God?
I really enjoy it when a friend or family member accomplishes something hard. I love to help them celebrate reaching a goal they set for themselves. I believe it becomes a problem when people put themselves above others; a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance.
Here is one example that comes to mind. A lot of people only want to talk about themselves, their job, their family and their interest. When they have this mindset, their concern is not for others, but for themselves. I love to listen to people talk about their family and friends but I also would like them to care about what’s happening in my life. A person wants a true friend who will really cares about all things concerning them. It’s not much fun to only have a one way relationship with a person.
There are also many other examples of pride that people can have because of their talents, education, position, wealth, accomplishments, etc. As in the definition; a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one’s position or character. Let’s look at the following scriptures:
Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
Psalm 10:4 In his pride the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.
Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
1 John 2:16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.
As we read these scriptures we see that pride comes between a person and their relationship with God. Why, because prideful people think more highly of themselves than God or others. This is the mentality of: my way is the only way, I am more important than anyone else, what you have to say is not important to me, or, to do this with you is no benefit to me.
In Proverbs it talks about a haughty spirit. This type of spirit can accompany a prideful person. Haughty is not a word we use so I want to define it as well. Haughty - disdainfully proud, snobbish; scornfully arrogant. There are twelve Bible verses that I know of that use the word haughty. To put it bluntly, God does not like this kind of spirit. See the following verse from Proverbs.
Proverbs 6:16-19 There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him; 1. haughty eyes 2. a lying tongue 3. hands that shed innocent blood 4. a heart that devises wicked schemes 5. feet that are quick to rush into evil 6. a false witness who pours out lies 7. a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
Wow now that’s heavy stuff, but you know what? All those are very hurtful actions that destroy people’s lives; no wonder God hates them. I will leave you with a final verse to think about and I believe it is a warning to us all.
Isaiah 23:9 The Lord Almighty planned it, to bring down her pride in all her splendor and to humble all who are renowned on the earth.
I pray that this article will help you grow closer to God and help you improve all your other relationships. Always remember, treat people the way you would want to be treated. Luke 6:31
Who is Sally? I have been very happily married for 31 years and we have four grown children and 7 grandchildren.